As strong independent women we shouldn’t be asking anyone else for help, right? We’re the good wives, mothers and friends and we’re super helpful. We are the one’s EVERYONE calls to help them.
We give and give and give and rarely take the time to receive the things we need to help build us up to be who God has called us to be- more than conquerers.
Don’t get me wrong, giving to others is good, but it cannot replace the one on one time we spend with Him in prayer and worship.
One thing that I didn’t realize years ago was that I was using this as an excuse to avoid spending time with God and addressing the real issues in my life. I was just too busy.
I was always helping everyone else, except myself. If someone else had a problem I would jump over tables to help them but when it came to solving my own problems I felt so ashamed of them that I would avoid them.
I would tuck them behind my Coach purse, my Michael Kors shoes & my NY & Co wardrobe and keep it moving, pretending that I wasn’t hurt, that I wasn’t struggling with carrying the weight of my past mistakes, disappointments & unfulfilled dreams.
I would avoid my issues by keeping myself busy. Busy with: helping others, volunteering, shopping, working overtime, Candy Crush, over eating, binge watching the latest TV series, scrooling Instgram or Facebook etc.
I Would Do ANYTHING Else As Long As I Didn’t Have To Face my ISSUES- my past mistakes, my being overweight, my lack of integrity, my low self esteem, my fear of failure, etc.
It was too hard to look at myself in the mirror and admit that this was the mediocre, lukewarm life I was living so I kept busy and lived in avoidance. It was the only way I knew how to survive without breaking down into tears. (and I hated crying)
However, it wasn’t until I had an emotional breakdown that I took the opportunity to take a really hard look at my life and realize what needed to be addressed. I began to spend that one on one time with God allowing Him to heal areas in my life which helped me align myself with His Will.
Once I did that I began to see the dreams and desires of my heart fulfilled. I lost weight, I developed integrity, I gained confidence and overcame my fear of failure. I am now living the life I’ve always wanted. I no longer carry the weight of my issues. I can look at myself in the mirror with no regrets.
Hopefully it doesn’t have to take a dramatic event in your life in order for you to allow God to turn things around for you.
We tend to avoid facing our problems (or even our dreams) because they are uncomfortable, embarrassing and sometimes painful.
When we don’t know how to fix our problems or pursue our dreams we tend to think the safest thing to do is nothing.
It’s easier to let our dreams fade away than to fight for them. It’s easier to overlook our problems instead of addressing them.
Dear One, just because it’s easier doesn’t mean it’s better.
If God has called us to be more than conquers then avoidance is not the answer. You can’t conquer anything if you can’t identify or address it.
Conquers deal with some grimy stuff but they overcome & they win, by the blood of the Lamb and the world of their testimony (Rev. 12:11).
We have to get over our obsession with lifestyles of avoidance, comfort & shiny balls. And begin addressing the issues & allowing God to fix what we can’t.
God is calling us to sit still long enough to allow Him to deal with our issues even if it is uncomfortable.
It’s time to stop running from the issues and start removing them so you can begin to live in alignment with the purpose God has for your life.
If you are ready to begin addressing the issues the best place to start is with prayer.
Heavenly Father, in Jesus Name, please forgive me for avoiding the issues in my life. I invite you to come in and address them. Please bring your healing and restoration into my life. Help me to align my life with your truth so I can begin to fulfill the purpose you have for my life. I pray in Jesus Name, Amen.
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